Being shy is a personality trait, not a flaw or problem. Being shy may also be driven by sensory components and/or triggers.
The most important thing you can do for your shy child is to respect this character trait, understand the sensory components that may be involved, but please don’t try and change them. Instead address the sensory side of things, and let the re…st happen naturally.
Ten sensory components/triggers that may be contributing to being shy…
1. Sensory defensiveness and the intention of avoiding as much sensory input as possible (empower and support your child providing tools for defensiveness and a portable sensory tool bag!)
2. Difficulty with eye contact, and the demand and expectation our society places on it
3. Difficulty with self-regulation and on the brink of sensory overload or fight or flight at any given moment
4. Social skills are often a step behind for children with sensory differences, and may present as being shy
5. Difficulty in reading cues or body language, therefore would rather just avoid it
6. Difficulty with communication and speech/language, a common challenge for those with sensory differences
7. Simply a sensory preference to be alone, in a more quiet, less interactive space, just not finding the need to socially interact as much as our society expects
8. Anxiety, which is often driven by sensory processing differences
9. More of a thinker and an observer, processes sensory information best
10. Too much pressure from parents/teachers/
source: Angie Voss, OTR Click for website here